Do you sometimes see women who do not have classic good looks but are extremely successful on the dating scene? The secret to their success is often their attitude – a positive, upbeat, confident one that focuses on the now. Here are some tips to catch the same attitude:
· Smile – It’s the only way you can show your date that you are a happy person. A positive attitude attracts others like nothing else can, and triggers positive feelings of elation in them. Studies have shown that smiling actually improves your own mood and makes you look more alluring.
· Ooze self assurance – Confidence in yourself acts to highlight all your strengths. Developing self assurance is quite simple actually. Focus on the big picture and don’t let yourself be affected by small annoying details. For instance, you may have been promoted but several colleagues and friends have not called to congratulate you – don’t let others’ approval or disapproval erode your confidence. Establishing a steady self image that is not dependent on others goes a long way in brushing off a negative attitude.
· Take steps to establish control of your future – Think hard about what you really want. Set goals and make decisions that will get you there. Take charge. That breeds an unbeatable, amazingly appealing attitude. The fact that you are already satisfied will give your prospective date the sense that he or she is not the only thing your happiness will hinge on and takes the pressure off both of you.
· Concentrate on the present moment – its fine to have goals, but translating them into reality means focusing on the now. On a date that translates into enjoying the experience and not obsessing on personal relationship goals like marriage and kids, especially on date #1. That will give your potential partner the impression you are only looking for husband material, have a deadline for it, and are not truly interested in him as a person. Instead focus on activities that bring meaning and passion into your life.
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