Ways to Refuse a Date

Dates are meant to be pleasant, pampering, happy and above all, voluntary. At times, you may be asked out to date by someone you do not wish to date. There are different ways to refuse a date request. Keep in mind your own sense of comfort. When you say no to the date, it might be heart breaking, but a “no” is vital when you want to refuse.

Announce you are not ready to begin seeing anyone. Assure that an Ms Perfect/ Mr Perfect is waiting for him/her elsewhere. Keep the conversation terse and do not justify with further explanations. If the guy or girl is persistent, say that you will keep him/her in mind when you are ready and leave politely.

Refuse by saying you are seeing someone else. This is usually a sure shot idea. It works always, unless you are refusing a stalker.

Say you are very career oriented and have no time for distractions. If the request for a date has come from a colleague you do not fancy, boast about your love for work. Say you do not have time for other interests.

A not so successful way to refuse a date is to feign sickness. However, you will have to pretend being ill every time you get a date request from the same friend till he/she gets the message loud and clear.

Say you are a buddy only. Always insist you meet with a group of friends and he/she will understand that there is nothing “special” going on for the two of you.

Always remember that a refusal can be blunt no matter how polite. But it is imperative that you do not lead anyone on. In the long run your honesty will pay off well. After all, saying yes when you want to say no is being untruthful.