The Dating Game: Know When to Cut Your Losses

Many times in the initial phase of a dating relationship, people figure that if their new match is not really into them, they would be truthful about it and say so.  The fact is that everybody, especially men, find it tough to tell their date upfront that they are no longer interested and take the indirect route, hoping the message is loud and clear.  The first sign is they no longer call.

The trouble is, when that happens we tend to make excuses for them, when in fact, you should be cutting your losses and start looking for another potential partner.

Don’t justify their actions and ignore bad behavior

Deep down inside, most people recognize a lack of interest. The real problem is not wanting to acknowledge it and subsequently justifying your partner’s actions.  Common excuses are: Maybe he can’t call because his mobile phone was lost, or he’s had an accident or he’s caught up with a busy project at work… the list can be endless and increasingly lame. Don’t deceive yourself when your partner dictates terms such as being able to see you or even call you only on specific days of the week. Women especially tend to practice self-deception – emphasizing their partners positive qualities and burying the negative ones – out of fear of not being able to find a better match and being single again.

Don’t believe passion is equivalent to love

Women have a tendency to believe that passionate physical encounters are a way of winning a match over and that close emotional bonding will result. This is not always the case, so you do have to watch out for red-flags such as your encounters being few and far between and mostly just physical.

It can be tough to face facts, but don’t settle for a match less than the real thing – you deserve it – just believe in yourself and you will eventually find your ideal match.